Why Men Don't Listen And Women Can't Read Maps

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WHY MEN DON'T LISTEN

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WOMEN CAN'T READ MAPS
Barbara & Allan Pease

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Copyright © Allan Pease 2001 All rights reserved The right of Allan Pease to be identified as the author of this work has been asserted by him in accordance with the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988. This edition published in 2001 by Pease International Pty Ltd Phone: 61-7-5444 7000 Fax: 61-7-5444 7550Email: info@peaseinternational Web: www. peaseinternational. com Published in Great Britain by Orion Publishing Group Distributed in Australia and New Zealand by HarperCollins Ltd Imported to Great Britain by Pease Training International Ltd. Tel: 01564 741 888 Fax: 01564 741 800 Email: peaseuk@compuserve. com A CIP catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library Designed byKaren Stirling Printed by Griffin Press, Netley ISBN 0 957 81081 4 Sc/PR JaBay

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CONTENTS
Acknowledgments Introduction 14 A Sunday Drive Why Writing This book Was So Tough 1. Same Species, Different Worlds I9

Some Things Are Obvious Different Job Specs The 'Stereotype' Argument Is it All a Male Conspiracy? Where We (the Authors) Stand The Nature Versus Nurture Argument Your HumanGuidebook How We Got This Way We Didn't Expect it to Be Like This Why Mum and Dad Can't Help We're Still Just Another Animal
2. Making Perfect Sense 34 Women as Radar Detectors The Eyes Have It Eyes in the Back of her Head? Why Womens' Eyes See So Much The Slippery Case of the Missing Butter Men and Ogling Seeing is Believing Why Men Should Drive at Night

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Why Women Have a 'Sixth Sense' Why MenCan't Lie to Women She Hears Better Too... Women Read Between the Lines Men Can 'Hear' Direction Why Boys Don't Listen Men Miss the Details The Magic of Touch Women Are Touchy-Feely Why Men Are So Thick-Skinned A Taste for Life Something in the Air The X-Philes Why Men Are Called 'Insensitive'
3. It's All In The Mind 57 Why We're Smarter than the Rest How Our Brains Defend Territory

TheBrains Behind Success What's Where in the Brain Where Brain Research Began How the Brain is Analysed Why Women Are Better Connected Why Men Can Only Do One Thing at a Time! Try the Toothbrush Test Why We Are Who We Are Programming the Foetus The Brain-Wiring Test How to Score the Test Analysing the Result A Final Word

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4. Talking And Listening 85 The 'Blue or Gold Shoes' Strategy Why MalesCan't Talk Proper Boys and Their Schooling Why Women Are Great Talkers Why Women Need to Talk The Hormonal Connection Women Love to Talk Men Talk Silently to Themselves The Downside of Silent Talk Women Think Aloud The Downside of Thinking Aloud Women Talk, Men Feel Nagged Why Couples Fail

How Men Talk Women Multi-Track What Brain Scans Show Strategies for Talking with Men Why Men Love Big WordsWomen Use Words for Reward Women Are Indirect Men Are Direct What to Do About It How to Motivate a Man to Action Women Talk Emotively, Men Are Literal How Women Listen Men Listen Like Statues How to Use the Grunt How to Get a Man to Listen The Schoolgirl Voice

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5. Spatial Ability: Maps, Targets And Parallel Parking 118 How a Map Almost Led to Divorce Sexist Thinking The Lunch-Chaser inAction Why Men Know Where to Go Why Boys Hang Out in Video Arcades Boys' Brains Develop Differently Diana and her Furniture Testing Spatial Ability How Women Can Navigate What if You Can't Find North? The Flying Map The Upside-Down Map A Final Test How to Avoid an Argument How to Argue While Driving

How to Sell to a Woman The Pain of Reverse Parallel Parking Women Are Safer Drivers How Women WereMisled Spatial Ability in Education Spatial Skill Occupations Billiards and Nuclear Science The Computer Industry Maths and Accounting All Things Being Equal... Boys and their Toys How Women Feel Can You Improve Your Spatial Skill? Some Useful Strategies In Summary

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6. Thoughts, Attitudes, Emotions And Other Disaster Areas 149 Our Different Perceptions Boys Like Things, Girls Like People...