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Jennifer Castro
English II – 2nd period
Dotson
November 10, 2012
Divorce in the Eyes of The Victim:
Divorce is the legal action of separation between married people to terminate their marriage relationship. Divorce is a hard topic to cover on, but it is proven the one thing that occurs in most marriages in the United States. “However, if current trends continue, soon thefigure will reach 50% and even more” (Writer, page 1). Not only is divorce common, but it affects everyone in the family unit. As the divorce becomes more serious, it becomes harder to take in.
This devastating process can sound harsh, but can be proven as positive when seen in the eyes of the victims, or in some family units, the children. Most people believe that divorce should not bepermitted and that it should be forbidden to even speak about. I beg to differ and so do a lot of people. Divorce is something that not only should be permitted, but encouraged.
Marriages start off as love and comfort, but in some cases, that love and comfort disappears and fades away.” Sometimes individuals can change so much that their personalities may not mesh with people theyused to mesh with.” (Essortment, page 1). People change and can become someone they weren’t in the beginning of the relationship, causing the other person to feel no love and sometimes feel neglected. Not every marriage is fixable because everyone is their own individual and even with counseling, this is something that cannot be fixed or resolved. If the two do not get along, even withcounseling, there is no purpose in being miserable in a marriage you no longer feel loved in. That being said, divorce can provide the most valuable of human experiences and that is happiness.
Another reason why divorce should be encouraged is when your partner is unfaithful. “An affair is a signal that your spouse is inconsolably unhappy in the relationship” (Essortment, page 1). This showsthat your partner is not happy and wants something else in their love life. There is no longer a spark or something special between the two. Most say that the main purpose for marriage is to make mistakes, learn from them, and learn to forgive. I believe that there is no reason why anyone who has said their vows to another person, should have the right to betray that promise that they made. Theeffect of affairs is that you may never gain back the trust you've lost in them and that will forever affect the relationship. Marriage is about trust and without that, you have no marriage.
The strongest reason why divorce should be encouraged is when your partner is abusing you or your children. “Nearly one-third of American women (31 percent) report being physically or sexuallyabused by a husband or boyfriend at some point in their lives” (Commonwealth Fund survey, page 1). Many people believe that this may be a result of anger or even past history. They also believe that anger management classes could be the resolution to the problem. Abuse has more to do with the inner personality and their mentality. People who abuse is obviously feeling upset about something, but noone should ever take it out on their loved ones. If there is no divorce, or action taken upon the crime, you are only hurting yourself and your family. This is a life or death situation for anyone. If anyone’s health or well being is in danger, a divorce may be the victim’s only option. Children look up to their parents, so when parents do hurtful and painful things to one another, the childrenmay start to think that’s it’s okay and there is no harm in doing so. This will affect the future of the child and it certainly will not be something good.
An opposing view that always gets pushed as the priority is that divorce is neither good nor healthy for the children in the family. Divorce brings up arguments and bickering in the household. In most cases, there is constant yelling,...