Love

The 5 Love Languages
Life’s deepest meaning is not found in accomplishments but in relationships. Relationships enrich our lives. We can feel proud of our accomplishments but we want to share ouraccomplishments with others, particularly those who are important to us, our significant other, our children, our family members and our friends.
We all want to know that we are loved. We want to beable to express our feelings of love to others so that they know of our love for them. We would feel hurt if the ones we loved told us that they didn’t feel loved by us. So often key relationships failbecause one or the other just did not feel loved or cared for. A wife may complain that her husband does not love her. When questioned, he is dumbfounded. Of course he loved her. Didn’t he spend allthose long hours working so that she could have whatever she desired? Her reply is that all she ever desired was some of his undivided attention. Each loved the other but didn’t express it in a waythat was meaningful.
Sometimes we try very hard to show our love, but if we don’t feel loved in return, we feel empty or disappointed. It may be that we are not expressing our love or caring in a waythat is meaningful to the other person. Similarly, we may have a sense that the other person loves or cares for us, but we just feel empty. Their love and caring has not been expressed in a way that issatisfying to us.
It is as if we have a love tank for each of our relationships. When we feel loved and cared for, the gauge on the tank registers full. When we feel unappreciated, the gauge canregister dangerously low or empty.
Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, through his counseling has found that there are five main love languages: words of affirmation, physical touch, acts ofservice, gifts, and quality time.
Words of Affirmation ~ These people love compliments, affirmations, spoken words of kindness. They get excited when they get a real letter in the mail, or a...