David De Angelo

Disc 2
Persona & social masks. Social masks hide the real self. The “I’m too good for you” look that
models give on cosmo covers is a social mask.
if you want to ‘be yourself’ that’s fine, but first you must get past that SOCIAL MASK through
c&f/teasing
Disc 3
External behaviour + Meaning assigned by us = our beliefs
If a belief is limiting you, challenge and change the meaning assigned toit!
Reframing limiting beliefs:
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Reframe the external behaviour
Reframe the internal state
Counter-example (new way of thinking about it)
Outcome framing (what’s going to happen if you keep thinking this way?)
Allness framing (apply as a complete generalization to everything
Reflexively apply to self or listener
Chunk down (HOW does this happen specifically? How didyou come to the
conclusion/belief?)

Life isn’t fair, you won’t get a fair anything. If life WAS fair, then you’d just have to accept your
place in life and not do anything about it. LIFE’S NOT FAIR, AND THAT’S A GOOD THING.
THAT’S WHERE ALL THE POWER COMES FROM.
Two keys to success in anything: 1) Definite Major Purpose and Constant Improvement
1) When you become PURPOSEFUL, it redirectsyour mind. New doors open
2) Consistent effort CREATES luck. Betting on luck is a really bad game; instead figure out
how to GET your own luck.
YOU are the only one who cares about your success. More often people want to see you fail,
especially if you’re doing better than them. Live for YOU.
MASTERY—The land of the Big Boys
Newcomers always want to learn the sexy tricks. Learn thefundamentals and MASTER them
before applying fancy techniques in any field.
ASSERTING YOUR REALITY UP FRONT

WHOSE REALITY IS IT? By asserting YOUR reality as the more dominant one, you assume
control of the situation in any interaction. “This is MY reality here, and you’re a guest. If you
don’t like it here, you can leave.”
BELIEFS of successful men
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Idon’t let women use their looks or sexual power to gain anything from me. There are no
special privileges.
I’m un self-conscious and couldn’t care less about what others think.
I put myself and my life first.
I deserve, have permission to date, and can hold an exceptional woman
I’m indifferent to the outcome
I understand the culture, I get it—style, food, movies, Cosmo, etc
I’m a goodcommunicator—especially of what I want
I’m in control, and I don’t let outside events destabilize me
I’m not needy, I keep my power for ME
I think sex is great, and I don’t have any hang-ups about it
I can control myself and I can wait. I don’t need to take action right now
I don’t tolerate disrespect to myself, my time, or my property
I’m a catch
I judge people based on CHARACTER, notpossessions or outward physical appearance
I may be smitten with a woman but I don’t tell her early on, and I don’t let it slip
indirectly

Reference/Mastermind group
Surround yourself with people who are LIKE the way you want to be! And surround yourself
with POSITIVE people to avoid a negative mindset. Avoid negative influences whenever
possible, like TV news.
Close your eyes and imagine the youthat you’d like to be. How are they standing? What kind of
posture does he have? How does he handle situations? Now, what are some experiences that that
ideal self would’ve had to have been through to reach that state?
Don’t criticize yourself internally, it’s just not useful (except when you’re really being stupid).
But be NICE to yourself!
SCARCITY is a myth! They’re out there, there’s noneed to be stuck on one.
How do you make someone want something? Make it scarce, connect it to something else they
want, make it beneficial, make them work for it, prove that other people want it also, make it a
challenge
Psychological leaning is a sign of insecurity. It reminds people of their own insecurity and
irritates them. Don’t lean! Avoid the “wanting-it tax”. As soon as someone...