Children and divorce

CHILDREN AND DIVORCE
Divorce is an unhappy process for everyone involved, the divorcing couples, their children, and their families. It is hard emotionally and it is hard financially. The conflictthat comes with divorce can wear on everyone involved, and everyone will probably go through a full range of unwelcome feelings, rage, anger, grief, sadness, depression. Divorce is, unavoidably, a lossfor everyone involved.

Children are the innocent victims of divorce.  They become the center of battles over child custody, support, and visitation.  Worst of all, the lines are drawn between thetwo people they love the most - Mom and Dad.
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Divorce affects a child in ways that parents don't always consider.  They face losing the only lifestyle that they've ever known. . You can't changethis fact, but you can give your children unconditional love and support to help ease their adjustments.
Because each child reacts differently to divorce, you may sometimes question your abilitiesas a mother.  This can be especially true if your ex suddenly finds fault with everything you do concerning the kids.  This is usually a power-play, but it can weaken your self-confidence as aparent.  Don't take it personally.  Talking to other mothers can help you regain your bearing, plus give you different ways to deal with the inevitable stress of raising kids. 
Raising children is tough,but divorce adds a whole new set of rules to your job.  Beyond dealing with your their emotions, you will also need to handle all the legalities concerning the them and their well being.  A well thoughtout parenting plan can help you minimize the trauma that they will face.  Take into consideration the following questions as you prepare your divorce.  What will the custody arrangements be? Howoften will they visit their father? And, how much child support will you get?

But most importantly, how can you be there emotionally for your kids, to help them accept and adjust to their new life. ...