Remember when you were young and went with your crazy aunt for the week-end (or maybewith your annoying cousins). It was fun but when you got home, home was wonderful. Your feeling was "I'm home. I can relax now."
That's what a friendship should be.You go out into the world and do your best. You have your ups and downs, your problems and triumphs, your fun and tribulations. You charm and you perform.
Then you come"home" to a friend, and you don’t have to fake anymore, you can be youself.
Friendship is a comfy situation like home. You get home, kick off your shoes, relax andsigh, "Ahh, home."and thats what you feel when you are with a real friend.
But All relationships need limits whether they are friendships, sibling relations,mate/lovers, business relations, etc. On some level, all limit setting means saying "no."
And if you are in frienship full of manipulation, anger, resentment etc. You betterfind the problem, see if you can fix it by putting some limitations, and a friend will understan. talking is very important.
In any friendship, some talking is merelyone person reciting his/her self- centered problems. However, talking between friends requires reciprocity. That means that when your friend talks about hi/herfeelings you, listen and then you speak your feelings too. And when relate, with them you give strength to your frienship.
And you can trust them with your secrets.
Tofeel connected,To get it off your chest, To cry for help.
Remember not everyone is a friend.
And you must always remember that One must be a friend to have one.