Las muejres que aman demasiado

I am sure you have heard this title or formula either from the media, either from your girlfriends, complaining that they are the ones who sacrifice in a relationship.
But is it truly possible to love too much?

Firstly, we would have to agree on a definition of love so we can see who are the heroes who goes behind that. And that is pretty much an impossible mission, since thousands of yearsof evolution didn't improve much in the way we live and understand love, much less on having a manual of love and relationships.

But since we are human, we will compromise and agree that love is a deep emotion that fulfills your soul, gives you meaning and makes interaction with people worthy of deeper levels.
The problems arises when, for many women, love is indeed the triumph of imaginationover ration.

And I will not be misogynistic (not me) and I will expand this pathological side of love to men as well. Many women and men will get actually attached on the feeling of love, on the intense chemical revolution that is sparked within the brain by the projections awakened by this feeling and will engage in unhealthy forms of "love".

More often than not love is misinterpreted asattachment, illusion spiced with it's intimate friends - possessiveness and jealousy all along the ride.

Women who love too much are women who will keep investing in a relationship although all the signs tells them hat they should move on. Women who love too much are those who give too many second chances, women that will hold an irrational hope that things will change or get better, even afteryears of progressive decline of the relationship.

Women who love too much are women who will keep giving and giving, without getting not nearly half in return, are women who misunderstand forgiveness with naivete.

Probably it is more specific to women, since the social stereotype, religion moral and family education holds women as the bearers of the forgiveness, understanding and the keeper ofthe family nest.

And since this society it is still a misogynistic one, with higher payed jobs hold by men, with discrimination against women in the hiring process, with much less women in high key position and with a sex industry exploiting mainly the women, then this biased society will oblige women to take decisions having in mind many other reasons than that of "free love".

Women wholove too much tend to get more attached emotionally and financially, they will center their live around The Man, fulfilling their live by fulfilling the man's live.

Women who love too much are women who give up on searching a personal meaning for their life, whose main job is to build a pedestal for the relationship and their man, who will find meaning in nesting an emotional attachment - effortswhich will be rewarded most of the time with indifference and neglect.

And that is happening because one of the secrets of a healthy relationship is independence. And when yoru partner will be burdened by your expectations because you give so much, most of the time they will try to escape and take distance- exact the opposite effect you expected.

If on the other hand you show independence,on all levels - emotional, sexual, financial, intellectual, then your will become a wanted person - everone is secretly in search for this kind of partner. It's just the complicated web of our minds doesn't allow us to be aware or voice freely our desires.

When one has found the happiness and fulfillment by it's own life choices, then the relationship won't be an expression of a need or of thedesire of escaping loneliness - but an expression of the desire to share the beauty of life, to enjoy together the understandings and individual fulfillments.

But most of the time people will engage in relationships from all the wrong reasons. I guess it is a kind of weird pleasure in experiencing that possessiveness feeling of belonging to someone, a kind of unreal security which we would...