Love at first sight, does it really exist? The Wikipedia definition for love at first sight says, “love at first sight is a common trope in Western literature, in which a person, character, or speaker feels romantic attraction for a stranger on the first sight of them.” Stranger… how can you fall in love with a stranger at the first sight of them? In my opinionand those of many experts, that is reluctantly impossible. A stranger is a person whom you do not know, so again, how do you fall in love with a stranger at first sight? The answer is: of course not. The belief of love at first sight is simply idiotic. Picture this:
You are at your favorite club, the music is so loud you can barely listen to your own thoughts, the lights are dancing around theroom; you are having the time of your life. Suddenly, you see a girl across the room; she is heaven itself. You stare at her, and before you know it she is staring back at you. For a brief moment, the music fades away, the lights along with the other people in the room start vanishing. For a moment you feel as if it is only you and the girl standing alone in a room, locked in an eternal stare. Righthere, right now the world is perfect. Suddenly, everything snaps back to reality and you are again standing in the club surrounded by people. Somewhere inside yourself you know that “she is the one”.
Think for a moment: is this really true love, or is it just a brief infatuation? Many people in modern day society claim that love at first sight is an indisputable fact. They believe that each ofus is born with a predetermined soul mate with whom we are destined to spend the rest of our lives with, and upon our meeting there shall be an intense override of emotions leading them to fall for each other at first sight. This statement is blatantly false. This is what truly happens:
Firstly, we must comprehend that there are biological and chemical factors that have lead up to this love atfirst sight unreliable theory. In human chemistry, the endorphin theory of love is a view that when two people feel a sexual attraction the body will release endorphins, (the body's natural morphine); this accounts for the pleasurable feelings of being in love. The relationship between brain and endorphin releases and the body interprets this as love, but truly it’s only lust, physical attraction,the desire for someone’s flesh. All these chemical reactions take place in approximately, 0.18 seconds. So basically what current society’s blanks are claiming is that we can determine who will be our partner in soul in one eighth of a second?
Secondly, as explained by Psychologist Robert Sternberg’s triangular theory of love, love is divided into three different components: intimacy,commitment, and passion. Intimacy is a form in which two people share confidences and various details of their personal lives. Commitment is the expectation that the relationship shall be eternal and monogamous. Passionate love is shown in short-lived infatuation as well as in true everlasting love; this is the type of love that people confuse as love at first sight. Passionate love between two conjugateswho have just met each other is known as sex. Passionate love of two people who have based the decision upon a mutual staring and giggling is just plain idiotic. True passionate love comes after years and years and years of intimacy, and commitment. True passionate love is a fundamental sense of care that comes from truly knowing someone. True passionate love is only truthfully achieved when truelove exists amongst both conjugates, when you have learned to see their flaws as part of their inevitable perfection. The ultimate difference between infatuation and sincere love is the fact that true love manifests itself after you obtain knowledge of the person's inner paradigm. In other words, when you fall in love, you get to know the person’s strengths, weaknesses, and prevailing disposition...