As masculinity is a homosocial enactment, the main emotion is fear. According to Freud, the boy gave upthe desire for his mother because of the fear of his father’s power. This makes a relation between gender identity and sexual orientation: the boy by identifying with his father, which means becomingmasculine, he also becomes heterosexual. And he believes he will overcome this fear if he identifies with his oppressor, his father. So this is the way men become masculine.
But if the boy identifieswith his mother, he will see his father as his mother does, with desire, but at the same time, he will see his father as the boy wants to see him, as a person to emulate. Homophobia starts when he, theboy, tries to supress the desire for other men. And what are men supposed to do? They must fight that feeling, suppress it and hide it.
Even if we don’t refer to Freudian model, the father isalways the first man who evaluates the boy as masculine. During childhood, boys see how other men around them behave. They absorb these primary lessons about social male roles from observing their fathersand other male family members, teachers, media heroes... Today's boys grow up watching programmes that show them a completely different set of male behaviour from those that exist around them.