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T H E WAY O F
THE S U P E R I O R MAN
A

Spiritual

Guide

to

Mastering

of Women, Work,

and

the

Sexual Desire

DAVID DEIDA

PLEXUS
1997

Challenges

IMPORTANT CAUTION - PLEASE READ THIS
Although anyone may find the practices, disciplines and understandings in this book to be
useful, it is sold with the understanding that neither the author nor the publisher areengaged in
presenting specific medical, psychological, emotional, sexual, or spiritual advice. Nor is anything
in this book intended to be a diagnosis, prescription, recommendation, or cure for any specific
kind of medical, psychological, emotional, sexual, or spiritual problem. Each person has unique
needs and this book cannot take these individual differences into account. Each person shouldengage in a program of treatment, prevention, cure, or general health only in consultation with
a licensed, qualified physician, therapist, or other competent professional. Any person suffering
from venereal disease or any local illness of his or her sexual organs or prostate gland should
consult a medical doctor and a qualified instructor of sexual yoga before practicing the sexual
methodsdescribed in this book.

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© 1997 by David Deida
All rights reserved. No part of this book may be reproduced in any form or
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Library of Congress Catalog Card Number: 96-72534
Publisher's Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Deida, David.
The way of the superior man : a spiritual guide to mastering the
challenges of women, work, and sexual desire / David Deida.
p. cm.
ISBN: 1-889762-10-5 (hb)
1. Masculinity (Psychology) 2. Man-woman relationships.
3. Intimacy (Psychology) 4. Sex. I. Title.HQ1090.D45 1997
305.31
QBI96-40835

With deepest gratitude,
To the intimate partners and teachers
Who have drenched my life with their love and wisdom

TABLE OF CONTENTS

INTRODUCTION

xiii

part one: A M A N ' S WAY
1. Stop Hoping for a Completion of Anything in Life . 3
2. Live With an Open Heart Even If It Hurts
3. Live As If Your Father Were Dead

6
8

4. Know YourReal Edge and Don't Fake It
5. Always Hold To Your Deepest Realization

9
12

6. Never Change Your Mind Just to Please a Woman . 15
7. Your Purpose Must Come
Before Your Relationship
8. Lean Just Beyond Your Edge

18
20

9. Do It for Love

22

10. Enjoy Your Friends' Criticism

27

11. If You Don't Know Your Purpose,
Discover it, Now
30
12. Be Willing to Change Everythingin Your Life . . . . 32
13. Don't Use Your Family As an Excuse

38

14. Don't Get Lost in Tasks and Duties
15. Stop Hoping for Your Woman to Get Easier

43
47

part two: D E A L I N G W I T H W O M E N
16. Women Are Not Liars
17. Praise Her

54
58

CONTENTS

18. Tolerating Her Leads to Resenting Her
19. Don't Analyze Your Woman

60
64

20. Don't Suggest that a Woman
FixHer Own Emotional Problem
21. Stay With Her Intensity—To a Point
22. Don't Force the Feminine to Make Decisions

67
73
76

p a r tt h r e e : W O R K I N G W I T H P O L A R I T Y
AND ENERGY
23. Your Attraction To the Feminine Is Inevitable
24. Choose a Woman Who Is Your

82

Complimentary Opposite
25. Know What Is Important in Your Woman

87
94

26. You Will Often Want MoreThan One Woman . . . 99
27. Young Women Offer You a Special Energy
102
28. Each Woman Has a "Temperature"
That Can Heal or Irritate You
105
part four: W H A T W O M E N

REALLY WANT

29. Choose a Woman Who Chooses You
30.
31.
32.
3 3.

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What She Wants Is Not What She Says
Her Complaint Is Content-Free
She Doesn't Really Want to Be Number O n e . . . .
Your Excellent...